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Early Childhood Depression and Anxiety

It's time for another mental health post.  :)  Winter seems to be a time when things coalesce, as we have to stay quieter and more contained and this drives us to face ourselves even more.  The low light probably has something to do with this as well.

Today I would like to discuss something I touched on in my previous post about mental health.  I said I wanted to talk about disorders in children and some things to look out for.  Now, I'm no expert -- I'm just someone who's gone through it and still going through it -- and even in my own journey things change.  (I finally connected, thanks to a lady I know who studies psychology and very kindly took the time to answer a few questions, that I may be experiencing something more complicated than just depressive disorder, because hallucinations and delusions are sometimes involved. This means my journey might be a bit different than someone who only deals with depression or anxiety -- or maybe it doesn't!)  But I do wan…
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Assalamu aleikum to all!  Thank you everyone who gave feedback on my previous posts!  Your encouragement means so much to me and inspires me to write more and more!

I just wanted to put up a brief, less formal post today about something I've struggled with for a VERY long time but alhamdulilah has become a great lesson.  I spend a lot of energy thinking about identity and how to define it.  Even though I dislike labeling in theory, I end up constantly searching for labels to explain who I am, why I do and think certain things, and most of all to find WHERE I belong!

The last point is one that causes a lot of pain for a lot of people.  We are community-oriented by nature and I think everyone wants a niche and a place they can point to as "home base."  Most of us use our professions and cultures to do this.  Many people will choose their friends based on where they come from because those backgrounds come with a set of ground rules and expectations.  Others of us choose ba…

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